Help?... I mean HELP!

Hey, Sorry I've been gone from this thing for so long! I've been keeping busy with the Rent-A-DCO thing... I know, its impressive I'm still jazzed about it. What can I say? When I commit to something, I really commit. Then Jaimee and I spent a week in Myrtle Beach, SC, followed by a week in Germany. Then one of Jaimee's little korean-chick friends came back with us from MD, and literally drank me under the table for a week, after which I needed a serious detox. So I was on a 7-day fast last week, while beginning an accelerated online course with School of Continuing Studies. CRAZY times.

Well as you may or may not have seen on your other blog, I need your attention and wisdom on a very important cross cultural issue involving your exact expertise. As previously mentioned, I was fasting, and praying, although mainly just detoxing. But a it happens I was praying about Jaimee's well-being and such in my prayers last night. Then this evening we go out to dinner so I can break my fast with an awesome wedge salad from Friday's when she hits me with this:

Apparently, Jaimee's family has been pressuring her again to get us to go the "blessing" (her family's church's wedding ceremony), usually we'd give the regular "no" response and move on. However, they've taken a different approach this time that is making me want to get all the advice I can from the Big Guns. Thats right, I count you as a spiritual Big Gun :=) So here goes...

They want us to get blessed, not as a religious ceremony (although it is), and not to appease her father (although that is a factor), but because in her family's eyes, they don't feel she loves them. Because we've been completely uncompromising (I disagree).

Also, they aren't asking for us to necessarily believe any part of their religion (although I'm pretty sure the father does), but want this done as a matter of respect towards the family and their culture. We even have the option of clarifying our intentions and beliefs before going through with the ceremony. So, I know you need time to chew on things and even then I probably won't get the straightforward answer I'd like, lol, so no pressure to do this in a bullet point style. I've just been mulling this over all day and you're the person I felt lead to ask.

What do you think?

1) I know we have the responsibility to care for the conscience of our neighbors. But if we're completely honest about our intentions and beliefs before hand then does that "wash our hands" of the responsibility?

2) I know the meaning of this ceremony is akin to LCMS doctrine on Baptism. But is my God too small if I think this nullifies something in my faith?

3) Do you know anyone in Japan who has had to deal with this issue as it relates to Japanese culture or religious ceremonies?

4) You told me a story once about your pastor and you going to a Buddhist funeral. Is he around to comment on the situation at all?

5) In Japanese culture (or Korean if you know an expert) if you are the one who caused offense, how do you right the wrong? Especially when its a matter of such dishonor as family?

There is this amazing book called "Miracle of Miracles." Its about these two Iranian Muslims who become Christians in Iran. They're forced to live as secret Christians, and are eventually married, as Muslims, to one another, the whole time not knowing the other is Christian also. The story goes on, and its just a beautiful story.

But there is something bothering about this story to me, which Jaimee confronted me with. Is there anything falsifying about their faith, just because their culture forced them to live their faith in secret?

Every LCMS bone in me (there aren't many) says YES. But... there is a part of me saying NO. I need some serious help sorting through this. HELP!